Our children

Our Children

Children- the most important people in a parents life. Children have always been the ray of hope in a parents life. Their gleeful smile, their never ending energy, their divine faces   and the strong aura that they have around them, makes a parent forget all their woes in life. Children in today's generation are far advanced and smarter than how we were in our generation. This is the reason why we need to have better parenting ways to connect with our young ones and create a way to have them connect with us. They do not appreciate being scolded and told what is to be done and what is not to be done. They like it if we give them a logical reason as to why one should not do it. 

I know I cannot beat my 2.5 yr old daughters logic sometimes. She ends up giving me the most logical answer according to her and one cannot deny the fact that she maybe right. She tells me its Ok to be angry sometimes because she has done something to upset me. Now when a child tells you something like that how will you react or act to say! 

One cannot stay angry with kids for a very long time. Its time, we as parents, start showing a greater degree of respect for our children. By respect, I should add, I mean giving greater credit to them than we would actually give. Lot of parents still do not give the due credit to the child even though he / she has done good or average in their own way. Irrespective of how our children have performed it is definitely our good to give them their appreciation. 

My husband always taught me and so has my mother, I need to learn being patient with my daughter, which I have eventually learned however not to a great extent. They keep badgering me with the fact how it will affect her long term. Possibly as mothers we sometimes forget that we are maybe the ones who spend maximum time with our kids. They learn from us and relate to us the most. I know if I scold my daughter too much, her confidence gets shaken. She will hesitate in doing many things. I have to bring myself to calm down to explain to her what she is doing wrong. Trust me even a 2.5 yr ols child understands when one explains to them, even though they are crying and yelling their guts out :). 

I guess out true colors come out only when we are with our kids and no one else. We know we can be what we want around them, teach them, scold them and control them to a certain extent. However, my sincere saying, we cannot own them. They totally have a mind of their own and we must give them that credit. 

Marriage - A thought

Marriage- Just a Thought

It’s been half a decade but it still feels like yesterday that we got married; the day of the wedding and the ones before that are so clear in my mind. There have so many surprising and not so surprising moments in our life we actually do not know where to begin from.

Today I can proudly say that we are growing just like the trees that branch out and protect but are still deeply rooted in the ground. Our journey has not been anything less than an adventure, but not realizing how much we have gained and lost too. But this is just the beginning to the promise that we made to each other today, of being together for 25 years, because anything after that will be bonus for us.

During this course of our relationship we have become everything a couple goes through, from loving each other unconditionally, to cursing our lungs out, to not being bothered routine. But, through all this we have still stuck together and we have many more moments to stick to too. We may not look eye to eye on everything in this world or to begin with even certain things now are not in the same direction J I love the fact when someone can say that ‘the way he looks is usually the same way she looks and vice versa’ but then that has to be a perfect scenario and we got to admit life’s not perfect. It’s the imperfections in it that make it so interesting.

Life will keep continuing and we will keep growing with it; we will go through a lot of turning points in our lives but we can make it through all of it. We have not given up so far on; we surely would not be doing so now. It’s been a journey to remember, to laugh, to cry, to feel sad, to feel happy, to share with each other of what we have. I hope to continue this journey together for many more years to come.

“Life cometh once, goes once; Love cometh, stays forever”

Happy Life ahead…..